Showing posts with label support group. Show all posts
Showing posts with label support group. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

"Support" group doing more harm then good"

I'm using the phrase support group very liberally.  I've tried many groups in my adult life, and I have yet to find one that is professionally run.  Some are peer run, and some are run by "professionals" but they must not be trained very well.

I tried one out this week where I knew within a minute or so that it was going to be a mess.  There were two so called facilitators and only two attendees, one male one female.  I was told right away that they might send us home because too few attendees.  I said, "oh great, i come all the way over here on the bus and your going to send us home."

They decided not to.  All 3 females were wearing pink.  I teasingly said to "dick*"  You can't stay because you aren't wearing a shade of pink!"  He emphatically stated "SHE is not wearing A SHADE OF PINK!"  With ridiculously exaggerated body movements, he pulled a candy out of his jeans, unwrappedit and threw it on the table!

"THIS is a shade of pink, NOT HER SHIRT!"

(i cannot fucking believe this!  aren't their any boundaries for appropriate behavior in this group?!)

The candy was red.  I said "Oh, I thought you were giving me a candy and unwrapping it for me"

IT'S NOT CANDY! he said.  IT'S A COUGH DROP!

Well, the whole group went on like this!  A facilitator was talking about an author who survived the holocaust.  She mentioned a pregnant woman who did not survive the holocaust.  I said, "Did the baby survive?!

Dick- who is practically yelling, said to me NOBODY SURVIVED THE HOLOCAUST.  NOBODY!

The other facilitator was speaking of safe places and relaxing events.  She mentioned a situation where she got to swim with dolphins.

Dick-OH, WELL AREN'T WE HOITY TOITY.  YOU KNOW NONE OF US CAN AFFORD EXTRAVAGANCES LIKE THAT!

(Again, instead of the facilitators creating boundaries, the facil. jumped to the defensive.)

She said: "Well, that was many years ago, plus how could I be hoity toity if I'm doing this kind of work.

FOLKS, I CANNOT BELIEVE MY, (AND THIS IS A REFERENCE TO A TV SHOW) "SO CALLED LIFE!"