E-can you tell me anything about YOUR father?
N-He died really young.
E-Hit by a truck, right?
N-Yes, I don't remember much about him (i think this is what she said, or she might have said, "well, it's too painful to talk about", i don't recall her exact answer, but i couldn't glean much information on this either way)
E-And your sister? (I didn't know her, she died around the time I was 3 y.o.)
N-She was a beautiful person. I was devastated by her early death at 38.
E-How did she die?
N-Of a brain aneurysm.
N-You know, I vowed that with the way my mother treated me that I wasn't going to be that way. It paid off, my son Warren and I are very close!
E-How often does he come here to visit?
N-Are you still singing, doing musical theatre?
E-I haven't been, but I hope to get back into it.
N-You have such a beautiful voice. I saw you sing in some show, but I don't remember which.
E-You saw me when I sang and danced in "Hair" at Catonsville Community College. (I know she was there, but I didn't see her and she left before I could see her)
N-And I might have seen you in Gimme Shelter productions singing too, but I'm not sure.
N-You know, when you were a child you ALWAYS talked about how badly you wanted to meet your birthmother.
E-What age did I start doing that? (wow, i don't remember that)
N-I don't know, maybe age 8.
N-Helen resented you for wanting to find your birthmother, she couldn't forgive you.
E-She never told me that. She never dialogued with me about anything. I just knew she was angry and wasn't going to help me find Marcene. When I did finally find Marcene, I couldn't tell Helen how the visit went because I knew she didn't care.
N-It's only natural for an adoptee to want to know their roots.
E-And it doesn't mean that the adoptee is trying to find a "better" set of parents!
(I've made 3 requests for something to put the flowers in, to no avail) The last request the nurse said: "It is not our job to provide vases!"
N. said: THE NURSE SAID THAT?!
E: She sure did!
N: Are they lilacs?
E:(I LOVE lilacs) No, they are some bouquet of purple and yellow flowers.
N: N. takes a whiff, but i suspect they won't have much scent.
E: I tried to get you a red rose for love and a yellow rose for friendship, but the grocery store wouldn't allow me to build a bouquet.
E: Would you like me to move them so you can see them?
N: Well, (about having no vase!) if they're going to die, then let them die right here on my dinner tray where I can see them!
E:(she seems touched by the flowers!)
E: I should probably head for the bus. Would you like me to visit you again?
N: Anytime honey, anytime.