Reading between the lines. So many times people are telling you xyz but they don't realize that they are sending a totally different message through their non verbals.
In this instance, I just read an article in Redbook (free magazine area at library) about Jada Pinkett Smith.
They take away is supposed to be the importance of friends and family.
But what i'll always remember about the article is:
(and I will paraphrase here)
Jada and a girlfriend were hanging out on North Avenue in Baltimore. She just cashed her check then immediately got mugged. She chased down the assailant armed with a switchblade!
Redbook asked Pinkett how mom reacted when she said she wanted to go to Hollywood. The mother said something to the effect of: "You might as well, stay here and you might get killed!"