It's always a very tough call. When is is appropriate for me to get involved when parents are being grossly negligent.
There have been three recent incidents where i knew i had to do something. Well, 2 where i had to, and one where i wanted to.
The first incident was a want to. A mother on the bus forbade her 3 year old daughter from going to the playground just because she lost her hair clip. I was tortured about it, the girl started crying. After a grueling 5 to 10 minutes, i was ready to disembark. I quietly said "Mommy, please let your daughter go to the playground!" (it was an exceptionally good day to play outside) she laughed , probably out of embarassment, then said "but she lost her hairclip!"
A 3 yo boy was in the street where the bus easily would have pulled out and run him over. The grandmother did not even notice. I told the boy he needed to go to the sidewalk.
Incident 3 was today. The 3 yo boy was with his always oblivious 2 parents on the bus. The boy climbed behind the seat to lay on the wheel well! The parents did nothing. I waited , waited , waited. About 2 minutes before the driver was due to pull off, i went up to him to alert him of the situation. He told the boy that theboy needed to move, but he did not demand the boy sit in a seat.
This made the mom angry at me well tough sh#$%
Like obama said when he went to new town connecticut:
THEY ARE OUR CHILDREN!